How to Build your Child’s Self Esteem
Parenting is a wonderful experience and one of the
greatest responsibilities on Earth.
If you are a parent, you know what I’m talking about when I say that I am truly blessed for my children and for everything they have taught me so far.
However, I would also be lying if I didn’t admit that it can sometimes turn into a rocky ride. What I mean is, we all know parenting can be the cause for a lot of pain and sorrow. You know what I’m talking about, right?
You know that feeling you have inside, that sits at the top of your stomach, a big heavy lump that can sometimes be the cause of thoughts such as:
~ Am I doing the right thing for my child, am I getting this right?
~ Am I making the right kind of choices for them?
~ Is this behavior normal for kids their age?
~ Is this just a phase, will he grow out of it?’
Maybe what really worries us is that we know that our kids can be just like us, and maybe that’s what can get us really ticked off and uncomfortable.
We know exactly what our buttons are, exactly what our regrets are, we can close our eyes and recount the times that we believe we failed and now, with hindsight, we also know what we could have done better, what could have helped in a situation just like the situation our kids are facing.
We vowed we would teach them better, so that they wouldn’t have to go through the same.
‘How can I teach my child to have the feeling that they are good enough?
That feeling that they believe in themselves?
That one feeling the carry with them always and that lets them know that they can accomplish anything they want? ‘
The answer to all these questions lies, quite simply, in self esteem.
A child with low self esteem is a child that: has negative self talk;
who is more of a follower to others than a leader to themselves;
a child that participates less in school and learning environments;
that struggles with making friends;
that is at a higher risk for being bullied;
and that is generally less happy.
Overall, the issue of having low self-esteem can be very damaging to the psyche of a child.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. We can teach our children how to overcome their low self-esteem and become the young, bright, self-assured minds we know they are, deep down inside.
Suffering is a choice. And there will always be things we, as parents, can do to improve our children’s choices and outcomes. If you are like me, you may be terrified thinking about the looming teenage years. But the secret to a happy, turbulent free start to an adult life lies in the same answer we’ve seen before: in self-esteem.
We believe that your child’s self esteem MUST be strong by the time they are headed into those difficult teenage years. Your child needs to know there’s a world out there for them to conquer, if they just believe in themselves.
But how do we instill in them this voice that constantly tells them they are good, they are worthy, they can get over a hard time, no matter what that hard time is, be it bad grades, or a new school, or a divorce?
How do we make them see they deserve the world, and how do we teach them the right attitudes and the right behaviors to succeed?
Today, the world is already very different from the world you grew up in. You might even be struggling to understand the exact scenarios your child is faced with, everyday. And this change will continue to accelerate, creating challenges for our children we could never even imagine. These outside forces and changing landscape are difficult enough – but growing up can be even more devastating to someone who feels so insecure and questions their existence on a daily basis.
Building your child’s self esteem requires your utmost attention. If not addressed early on, your child’s self-esteem and ensuing behaviors are something that will haunt both of you for the rest of your life. And yet, parenting doesn’t come with a booklet. And many parents themselves recognize they lack the tools and strategies to get ahead in their own life.
So how do you do this?
You start by recognizing You are your child’s biggest Influence.
You are the one your child is going to look at as a model, to try and figure out the behaviors they should use to interpret the situations they are in.
Accordingly, You should use this time, when they are younger and while you still have much of their attention, to build up their confidence.
To give them the tools, the right mindset they can take with them everywhere to know how to face any situation that comes their way.
To do this, the first thing you have to do, the very first step, begins with You taking a stand as a parent that you will do everything and anything in your power to make sure your child has rock solid self-esteem.
1. You have to become good at coaching your child through this process.
2. Start with reading everything you can on how to build your child’s self esteem.
3. Take daily actions so you can help your child to discover their self worth.
4. Know that a child’s childhood will be the building block for a lifetime of happiness and success.
5. Ask for help!
Getting it right the First time is Crucial for your Child’s Happiness.
My name is Greg Horton, Founder of Mastery Martial Arts. Our team of Instructors specialize in helping parents help their kids thrive in life by building their self-esteem to get them through adversity. We help children become the smart, confident, compassionate leader they are so capable of becoming.
We do this using 21st Century teaching strategies that will have your child accelerating their learning capabilities, finding their voice, and strengthening their body.
Many parents see a positive change in their child in a very short period of time.
The right environment, the right kind of teaching, the right amount of challenge for them to learn that they are strong, and capable of overcoming any challenge with the right tools and mindset.
We have a simple 4 step character development process that we have been teaching for the last 20 years and that your child will love. We have been helping shy kids get out of their shell and transform into community leaders faster than you ever thought was possible.
And if this sounds crazy to you, we understand. We saw how parents were struggling to give their children that Advantage in life they need to live a healthy, happy and prosperous future. Thats how and why we created the Mastery Leadership program
Helping kids become the Leaders of tomorrow and giving them the foundation to be successful in life is a parent’s greatest responsibility. This means preparing your child for the most difficult times of their life, giving them the confidence and security most parents have never had, and wish they did.
We do this by working with Incredible parents like yourself who take their parenting responsibility very seriously. Of course all parents give their children Love, shelter, clothing and food. What we are talking about here is Giving your child the experience, knowledge and opportunity to Intentionally grow their self esteem.
Parents who understand that great parenting today will result in their Childs happiness for a life time.
Hey, no pressure, parents.
Childhood is the time to build the foundations of a happy, successful life. And we have specialized in giving children the toolbox they need for dealing with whatever it is life has in store for them.
If this seems interesting to you, then you should go ahead and book a 10-minute call with one of our staff members, which will help explain in more detail what we do, our methodology, and how we can make a difference for your child’s future, taking lessons from the mat that they can incorporate in their lives.
Watch our Parenting webinar. How to help your child Build their Self esteem for a happy life.
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